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Welcome to the Mundane Report.

Friday was work, then D&D. I helped to kill some things, but they really deserved killing. Bugbears they were, and they started it. Lightning bolts fixed their little red wagon (with help from the cuisinart barbarian and the sorcerer's fireballs, admittedly). I even sent my buddy Dalton the lynx into the fray, and he got in a death blow- everyone else does a lot of hurt to a big baddy, he swoops in and does 3 points of damage, and kills the baddy. You don't get extra credit for that or anything, but it's still amusing.

Saturday was more work. No, I usually don't work Saturdays and was able to milk it for all kinds of sympathy. But there was a training by an arrogant, somewhat aggressive social worker who seemed intent on emphasizing that once you're abused early in life, it fucks you up forever and there's not a damn thing anyone can do about it. Oh, and psychotherapy is stupid. It reminded me of the puzzling and pointless enmity between social workers and psychologists/counselors. I remember trying to get into UT's social work program after getting my Bachelor's in psych and not getting in- and hearing later "oh yeah, social work majors hate psychology majors." I doubt that was the reason I didn't get in, but the possibility that it was a factor always irked me.

Needless to say, it was not the best training I've ever been to, but I get 6 hours of credit for it so what the hell. I did learn something- everyone talks about 'fight or flight' as the choices an adrenaline spike gives you, but there is another one, 'freeze'. Apparently young children and animals, especially prey animals, will do that. If the trauma's bad enough, they basically check out- leave their body and go elsewhere, which you can't do if you're running or fighting. I can't think of any immediately useful application for this information, but it's interesting nevertheless.

Then, more D&D. Hub's campaign, wherein we killed a bunch of eyeless dwarf miners. They started it too, but they seemed to be controlled by something else, so it didn't seem as morally clear. Dwarves are usually good guys, after all. That puzzle remains to be solved. But a good time was had.

Now, lazy Sunday morning web browsing has ensued and hub has taken residence in the float tank. No big plans for today except to visit Brö and Tom when they show evidence of awakening. I have a bit of a sore throat and think I'm definitely fighting a low-level cold of some kind, but I have some time to get some rest between now and work and no plans. Except the plan to take advantage of having no plans by not making any plans. Okay, time to go lie down or something.

Date: Jun. 5th, 2005 05:13 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] austingoddess.livejournal.com
a) Abuse *does* fuck you up forever as best as I can tell, but you learn to make it work for you if you put a lot of effort into it.
b) Psychotherapy is damned helpful if the therapist is good. Takes a lot of the punch out of a).
c) Going tharn is quite possibly the most common reaction to repeated stress like that.

Date: Jun. 5th, 2005 06:24 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] mielikki.livejournal.com
I don't buy it. Affect, I will buy. Fuck you up with no hope of repair? That's not the same, and that's bascially what he was saying.

Date: Jun. 5th, 2005 06:54 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] austingoddess.livejournal.com
It can't be erased or repaired, I don't feel. You'll never be the same, and my definition of "repaired" is "as good as new." You can learn healthy ways of dealing with it, and at best can learn to make the experience work in your future favor. But I don't buy "repaired." That monkey will always be there, but with a lot of work, you'll have him off your back and dancing on the barrel organ.

Date: Jun. 5th, 2005 11:24 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] mielikki.livejournal.com
Well, to me repair doesn't mean 'good as new' or works the same- it just means get it to where it's functional (as opposed to, I dunno, restore or as you say erase). Even a non-abusive childhood has a bunch of traumas and weird things to overcome which is why I think everyone could benefit from therapy at some point in their lives, which I think I mentioned in another post elsewhere.

Date: Jun. 6th, 2005 02:06 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] austingoddess.livejournal.com
I replied to your therapy post and said everybody could use therapy on a regular basis, even if it's just a check-up. :)
Definitely I'm not holding out child abuse in a "top that" sort of way - shit happens in many forms, and we all have to work through those or get buried by them. But those who take advantage of the innocent go to a special level of hell, 'cause working through injury when you have no information whatsoever sticks with you for far too long.

Date: Jun. 6th, 2005 04:18 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] mielikki.livejournal.com
Right, there's no argument there- my initial problem was with the assumption that abused kids were 'unhealable'. He even referenced a book with a title that was something like 'Scars That Won't Heal'. I mean, there has got to be a better way to present that so it doesn't across like "you're just fucked, no point in trying."

Date: Jun. 6th, 2005 08:36 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] austingoddess.livejournal.com
No hope in trying - yeah, *that's* a helpful message. Thbbpt.
No, my therapy has done me a world of good, primarily in helping to short circuit the internal messages that kept the abuse going in varying ways.

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