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Friday was hang out and watch movie night. Actually, I think we watched 'Firefly'. Excellent show, that.
Saturday was our 5th wedding anniversary. I was feeling weird and moody and you know how some birthdays you're just happy to be alive, and some you do a lot of reflecting on how things are? This year was a reflecting one, and though our relationship's not in trouble (as far as I can tell) we did have some chatting to do about where we were and where we were headed. Neither of us is perfect, so our relationship isn't either. And even if both of us were perfect, we still wouldn't be perfectly compatible. I loathe Spam, he hates Vienna sausages, yet still somehow we manage to make it work. And honestly, I am more impressed by his willingness to tackle the tough topics with me and not run away, which makes him unique of pretty much all the guys I've been with. Sometimes I wonder how I could be so lucky.
I prepared for Oestara. He ran more errands, and brought home a vase and a bunch of irises to put in it by way of a happy anniversary gift, along with some chocolate orange truffles and a bottle of mead to sip in the hot tub while he sips his port. Awww! By the time he got home, the thunder was rolling and we had a big cloudburst. Oestara was set for River's place (which has a ritual-able outside), and I figured we could have it inside if it was too nasty. But oddly it cleared off by 6, and we went ahead and set up outside since she lives on top of a hill and it wasn't really muddy. However, it clouded up again right as I finished casting circle and by the time we got to the lesson part, it began to rain. We hurriedly grabbed most of the altar accoutrements and moved it inside while another cloudburst dumped rain. By the time circle was over, the sky was crystal clear again. It actually seemed fitting enough- Spring Equinox, day and night of equal length- half the ritual was inside and half was out. And while the energy didn't just roar up (I think people were feeling a bit low from allergies and whatall) I still think it went well. Conversation after was easy and companionable. Everyone was very happy to pitch in and make it all happen too, and I really appreciated that as well. I never was too fond of dictating the fall of every sparrow when running the rituals, and I think folks are feeling safer about taking initiative to help out rather than ask my okay for every step. Huzzah!
This morning Gordon took us to Tien Hong for what is apparently a traditional dim sum breakfast with several of his buddies. It was pretty awkward because we were obviously horning in on a crown that has known each other for a long time and though they were all mostly friendly, I still got a 'why are they here?' vibe from one person. But it was an interesting experience and folks were nicely accommodating to my seafood aversion. I don't know if I'd do it again, but what the hell.
I didn't feel much like going inside and sitting in front of a computer (which tends to be my default activity) so I asked Gordon if he felt like going for a walk. He lead hub and I all around Walnut Creek park, which is right down the street from his house. That park is enormous! And beautiful, though I bet they all are in this area at this time of year. We got a good hour or more hike in, and eventually came home for a siesta. D&D was tonight, and it was alright though now I'm glad to be alone. Tomorrow will be a nice relaxing day, I hope.
Saturday was our 5th wedding anniversary. I was feeling weird and moody and you know how some birthdays you're just happy to be alive, and some you do a lot of reflecting on how things are? This year was a reflecting one, and though our relationship's not in trouble (as far as I can tell) we did have some chatting to do about where we were and where we were headed. Neither of us is perfect, so our relationship isn't either. And even if both of us were perfect, we still wouldn't be perfectly compatible. I loathe Spam, he hates Vienna sausages, yet still somehow we manage to make it work. And honestly, I am more impressed by his willingness to tackle the tough topics with me and not run away, which makes him unique of pretty much all the guys I've been with. Sometimes I wonder how I could be so lucky.
I prepared for Oestara. He ran more errands, and brought home a vase and a bunch of irises to put in it by way of a happy anniversary gift, along with some chocolate orange truffles and a bottle of mead to sip in the hot tub while he sips his port. Awww! By the time he got home, the thunder was rolling and we had a big cloudburst. Oestara was set for River's place (which has a ritual-able outside), and I figured we could have it inside if it was too nasty. But oddly it cleared off by 6, and we went ahead and set up outside since she lives on top of a hill and it wasn't really muddy. However, it clouded up again right as I finished casting circle and by the time we got to the lesson part, it began to rain. We hurriedly grabbed most of the altar accoutrements and moved it inside while another cloudburst dumped rain. By the time circle was over, the sky was crystal clear again. It actually seemed fitting enough- Spring Equinox, day and night of equal length- half the ritual was inside and half was out. And while the energy didn't just roar up (I think people were feeling a bit low from allergies and whatall) I still think it went well. Conversation after was easy and companionable. Everyone was very happy to pitch in and make it all happen too, and I really appreciated that as well. I never was too fond of dictating the fall of every sparrow when running the rituals, and I think folks are feeling safer about taking initiative to help out rather than ask my okay for every step. Huzzah!
This morning Gordon took us to Tien Hong for what is apparently a traditional dim sum breakfast with several of his buddies. It was pretty awkward because we were obviously horning in on a crown that has known each other for a long time and though they were all mostly friendly, I still got a 'why are they here?' vibe from one person. But it was an interesting experience and folks were nicely accommodating to my seafood aversion. I don't know if I'd do it again, but what the hell.
I didn't feel much like going inside and sitting in front of a computer (which tends to be my default activity) so I asked Gordon if he felt like going for a walk. He lead hub and I all around Walnut Creek park, which is right down the street from his house. That park is enormous! And beautiful, though I bet they all are in this area at this time of year. We got a good hour or more hike in, and eventually came home for a siesta. D&D was tonight, and it was alright though now I'm glad to be alone. Tomorrow will be a nice relaxing day, I hope.
