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I'm resiting the urge to apologize for the somewhat morbid and glurgy post yesterday. It's not a shining example of the poise and intelligence that I like to think my writing usually contains, but I gave myself the most raging headache trying not to bust out crying after reading the article. Welcome to my insides.
Speaking of apologies, last night I stuck that last post on a chat board I frequent, and found myself in a flame war today. Well, 'found myself' implies that I had nothing to do with it. But someone who fancies himself the Voice of Reason decided to point out to me that I shouldn't be judgmental of people that return their pets. I responded less than kindly. The verb 'shove' and the noun 'ass' was used. So was the term 'condescending asshole.' It pushed every one of my buttons, the ones labeled 'it is not a good thing to remotely imply that one's feelings are Bad.' I got a bellyful of that from dear old Dad, who did not handle my tumultuous adolescence with much tolerance. The phrase 'lighten up' to this day gives me the ability to bend steel bars around the necks of whoever says that to me when I am angry or upset about something.
The board moderator suggested I refrain from the use of the word 'asshole' and suggested 'pantload' instead (she was mostly kidding). This fellow is moaning about how I've crucified him, and how awful it all is. He has no idea. He apologized in that "I'm sorry you got upset" way that men seem to be gifted with, and is expecting one in return. He has a long, long wait.
Speaking of apologies, last night I stuck that last post on a chat board I frequent, and found myself in a flame war today. Well, 'found myself' implies that I had nothing to do with it. But someone who fancies himself the Voice of Reason decided to point out to me that I shouldn't be judgmental of people that return their pets. I responded less than kindly. The verb 'shove' and the noun 'ass' was used. So was the term 'condescending asshole.' It pushed every one of my buttons, the ones labeled 'it is not a good thing to remotely imply that one's feelings are Bad.' I got a bellyful of that from dear old Dad, who did not handle my tumultuous adolescence with much tolerance. The phrase 'lighten up' to this day gives me the ability to bend steel bars around the necks of whoever says that to me when I am angry or upset about something.
The board moderator suggested I refrain from the use of the word 'asshole' and suggested 'pantload' instead (she was mostly kidding). This fellow is moaning about how I've crucified him, and how awful it all is. He has no idea. He apologized in that "I'm sorry you got upset" way that men seem to be gifted with, and is expecting one in return. He has a long, long wait.
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Date: Dec. 18th, 2001 09:40 am (UTC)From: