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[austin_tycho]

I may have already posted this link, but I forgot if I did. And while many of my friends don't really need to be told that it's okay to be an introvert, perhaps they know someone who could stand to be enlightened. :)

Caring for Your Introvert

Edit: Now that I've re-read it, I remember being irritated by a slight thread of 'victim superiority' throughout ('we're better than everyone, and no one understands us! Boo hoo!') but otherwise it's still an interesting read.

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[fulguritus.livejournal.com]

"Extroverts are energized by people, and wilt or fade when alone. They often seem bored by themselves, in both senses of the expression. Leave an extrovert alone for two minutes and he will reach for his cell phone"

he's a bit judgemental too. he may be an introvert, but likely he isn't caring for his extroverted friends properly. he seems to be making some generalizations here.
unless bob and i aren't extroverts. we surely don't wilt when we are alone. we thrive on life, both with and without people. and are never bored.
maybe he's just a cynic or something.

"Extroverts are easy for introverts to understand, because extroverts spend so much of their time working out who they are in voluble, and frequently inescapable, interaction with other people. They are as inscrutable as puppy dogs."

he probably doesn't have any extroverted close friends. whle the above might apply to me when i'm revved up, it surely doesn't apply to me 85% of the time.

i think he hasn't figured out how to be an introvert without being a masochistic victim.
it IS an interesting read, but i have to say, having been married to an introvert for 7 years, this guy is a whining arrogant victim. and i would prefer that an introvert say "I'm an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush." than "roll their eyes and silently curse the darkness."
/rant

[mielikki.livejournal.com]

He did make generalizations, definitely. But at the same time, he has a point. It's hard to say he's not caring about his extravert friends, unless you say he should hang out with them when they want to hang and he doesn't. I think the point was that it's your typical Venus-Mars thing, where one group has one need (to be around people) and another has a different need (to be alone). And the typical extravert gets more support societally for being who they are than the typical introvert, who gets told they need to be more friendly or whatever. Different introverts deal with this better than others (victim mentality versus 'shush'), but there is a bias. I mainly posted this for introverted friends who know people in their lives that get offended at 'shush' and told they should change- it's pretty common actually, even if they have excellent coping skills.

[fulguritus.livejournal.com]

it's rude to ask either of them to change.
and shush is much nicer than fuck off and die.
sorry if i pissed in the collective cheerios.
love~

[mielikki.livejournal.com]

I don't think the author is calling for change, but understanding (with some rant thrown in); and I didn't actually see the words 'fuck off and die' in there anywhere. I think you're getting defensive about this, and I'm sorry if it upset you. Let's agree to disagree.

[fulguritus.livejournal.com]

actually i was saying that with a big laugh, sorry, i forget this is the worst medium for half-humor-half growliness.
i love introverts, they are usually great in bed.