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Aug. 1st, 2005 05:39 amHappy August, everyone. I don't know about where you live, but where I live it's still really, really hot. It will still be really, really hot for another 6 weeks to two months. However, the light takes on a different quality. So you can look at the way the light falls in the late afternoon and even though it may be a hundred degrees (or more commonly referenced as a hundred freaking degrees) you can imagine fall might someday come around.
The Daily OM was keen. I've fallen into the trap (and seen others do it) where if I start off doing something, and change my mind then I wonder if all that effort spent previously was pointless. I see this with my Wiccan students sometimes. They'll get into the classes, which is not an easy one-step process, and will go a few times and realize that it's not what they want. Depending on how self-aware they are, they might shrug and go "oh, that wasn't what I wanted. I will drop out of the classes and keep looking." Or they might sulk in class and complain to the other students and show up late and create a scenario in their heads where I somehow deceived them or let them down, and be bitter and crabby about it. As you can guess, I don't see a lot of sense in option two, but it happens. So I try to tell the students more than once "this may end up not being what you're after. But it's not wasted time, because now you have a better idea of what you are after, and I may even be able to point you toward it if you let me know."
Now, another challenge is to realize that in many cases, when I start doing something and have to stop due to reasons outside of my control (the other person didn't want to be in the relationship any longer, is the thing that most immediately comes to mind) that that effort spent previously wasn't wasted either. I remember that being one of my biggest complaints after the evil ex and I split up... "There goes 5 years of my life, wasted!" I know that isn't true, but it sure felt that way at the time.
( daily OM )
The Daily OM was keen. I've fallen into the trap (and seen others do it) where if I start off doing something, and change my mind then I wonder if all that effort spent previously was pointless. I see this with my Wiccan students sometimes. They'll get into the classes, which is not an easy one-step process, and will go a few times and realize that it's not what they want. Depending on how self-aware they are, they might shrug and go "oh, that wasn't what I wanted. I will drop out of the classes and keep looking." Or they might sulk in class and complain to the other students and show up late and create a scenario in their heads where I somehow deceived them or let them down, and be bitter and crabby about it. As you can guess, I don't see a lot of sense in option two, but it happens. So I try to tell the students more than once "this may end up not being what you're after. But it's not wasted time, because now you have a better idea of what you are after, and I may even be able to point you toward it if you let me know."
Now, another challenge is to realize that in many cases, when I start doing something and have to stop due to reasons outside of my control (the other person didn't want to be in the relationship any longer, is the thing that most immediately comes to mind) that that effort spent previously wasn't wasted either. I remember that being one of my biggest complaints after the evil ex and I split up... "There goes 5 years of my life, wasted!" I know that isn't true, but it sure felt that way at the time.
( daily OM )
